I am going to step up on my soapbox here, and, remember …This is MY domain. I own it. I will air my own opinions here. This is not a public social website like Facebook. REMEMBER THIS as you read my rant. And please excuse any grammatical or spelling errors. I typed this out on my phone on a 10min break)
FaceBook, mySpace, Twitter. These are all PUBLIC information sites. No matter how much you lock it down, it is STILL PUBLIC. If you have a flippin’ issue with someone, stop being passive and posting shit that is directed in a round about way to them. Send them a PRIVATE FUCKING MESSAGE or..hey, here’s an IDEA! Call them or email them.
In my personal life I have pulled that shit. I am now to the point, in REAL LIFE, that I give people one chance to come clean if they have an issue with me. I am not gonna follow-up, I am not gonna hound them. You got something to say to me, come say it. You accept me with all my quirks, idiosyncrasies, ass-holery, I will return the respect and acceptance. Be honest, be forward, and don’t effing stab me in the back.
I KNOW who I am. I know how I act. I am here. This is me. I will tailor a lot of my behaviors for some people. Not many at all though. If I call you friend, its because you have proven to me that you are willing to accept me. I will take that at face value, but the moment you prove you are anything less than honest and forthright, it will take a long time to gain back that level of trust from me again.
On Facebook, I don’t give a shit if you are a friend or family member, you pull negative crap on my page there, I will block you after 3 offenses. I have made my stance there clear. Got something negative to say, message me or email me.
Let me be even more honest: FACEBOOK is FACEBOOK! It is NOT a surrogate life game!! We do not have to add people. We do not have to add family members, old classmates, people we knew in passing. I do not subscribe to the “Oh, look, i have 4378947389174893073412.4547 friends! I am AWESOME!” school of thought. I subscribe to “ya know, Nick has been there, through all of our arguments, through my assholery, through it all. Yes, he is a friend and brother.” school of thought.
What all of this boils down to is this:
1) Be HONEST.
2) DON’T pull passive-aggressive shit. (some will argue that this is passive agressive medium. And, I admit, it is. Just not in a readily public forum.)
3) Don’T stab me in the back.
4) Be forward and blunt. I don’t play well with people that play games. Actually, it just pisses me off and I will ignore you and not talk to you.
5) A lot of folks have problems acting this way, and I accept that. But those that are my friends have proven honesty, usually in the dark, quiet moments as we sit and relax. As I said, accept me for who and what I am, and I will return the favor.
